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Birkat HaBanim: Blessing the Children

בִּרְכַּת הַבָּנִים · Friday night · hands on the head · Numbers 6:24-26
Blessing the children on Friday night, the parent places both hands on the child's head and recites the appropriate verse. For boys: "May God make you like Ephraim and Manasseh", Joseph's two sons, the only grandchildren Jacob explicitly blessed (Gen 48). For girls: "May God make you like Sarah, Rebecca, Rachel, and Leah", the four matriarchs. Then for either: the Priestly Blessing (Birkat Kohanim, Num 6:24-26), the same three-line blessing the kohanim recited in the Temple, now spoken parent-to-child every Friday night in homes around the world. Often the parent kisses the child's forehead afterward. One of the most emotionally weighted moments of the Jewish week.

Read Numbers 6:22-27 on Sefaria for the surrounding biblical/liturgical context.

for a son
יְשִׂמְךָ
ye-sim-CHA
may He make you (qal impf+2ms suf.)
אֱלֹהִים
e-lo-HIM
God
כְּאֶפְרַיִם
ke-ef-RA-yim
like Ephraim
וְכִמְנַשֶּׁה
ve-chi-me-na-SHEH
and like Manasseh
May God make you like Ephraim and Manasseh.
for a daughter
יְשִׂמֵךְ
ye-si-MECH
may He make you (qal impf+2fs suf.)
אֱלֹהִים
e-lo-HIM
God
כְּשָׂרָה
ke-sa-RAH
like Sarah
רִבְקָה
riv-KAH
Rebecca
רָחֵל
ra-CHEL
Rachel
וְלֵאָה
ve-le-AH
and Leah
May God make you like Sarah, Rebecca, Rachel, and Leah.
Birkat Kohanim masculine (for a son)
יְבָרֶכְךָ
ye-va-rech-CHA
may He bless you (m.)
יְהוָה
a-do-NAI
the LORD
וְיִשְׁמְרֶךָ
ve-yish-me-RE-cha
and may He keep you (m.)
May the LORD bless you and keep you.
יָאֵר
ya-ER
may He shine
יְהוָה
a-do-NAI
the LORD
פָּנָיו
pa-NAV
His face
אֵלֶיךָ
e-LE-cha
toward you (m.)
וִיחֻנֶּךָּ
vi-chu-NE-ka
and be gracious to you (m.)
May the LORD shine His face upon you and be gracious to you.
יִשָּׂא
yi-SA
may He lift
יְהוָה
a-do-NAI
the LORD
פָּנָיו
pa-NAV
His face
אֵלֶיךָ
e-LE-cha
toward you (m.)
וְיָשֵׂם
ve-ya-SEM
and set
לְךָ
le-CHA
for you (m.)
שָׁלוֹם
sha-LOM
peace
May the LORD lift His face toward you and grant you peace.
Birkat Kohanim feminine (for a daughter)
יְבָרְכֵךְ
ye-va-re-CHECH
may He bless you (f.)
יְהוָה
a-do-NAI
the LORD
וְיִשְׁמְרֵךְ
ve-yish-me-RECH
and may He keep you (f.)
May the LORD bless you and keep you.
יָאֵר
ya-ER
may He shine
יְהוָה
a-do-NAI
the LORD
פָּנָיו
pa-NAV
His face
אֵלַיִךְ
e-LA-yich
toward you (f.)
וִיחֻנֵּךְ
vi-chu-NECH
and be gracious to you (f.)
May the LORD shine His face upon you and be gracious to you.
יִשָּׂא
yi-SA
may He lift
יְהוָה
a-do-NAI
the LORD
פָּנָיו
pa-NAV
His face
אֵלַיִךְ
e-LA-yich
toward you (f.)
וְיָשֵׂם
ve-ya-SEM
and set
לָךְ
lach
for you (f.)
שָׁלוֹם
sha-LOM
peace
May the LORD lift His face toward you and grant you peace.

♦ About this prayer

Two hands on a child's head. Three lines of biblical Hebrew. The single most concrete transmission ritual in Jewish life.

The Priestly Blessing: three escalating gifts

Numbers 6:24-26 is structurally elegant. Each line has more words than the last (3, 5, 7 words in Hebrew), and each names a different mode of divine attention:

Line 1, protection: "May the LORD bless you and keep you." Bracha (blessing) and shmirah (guarding), outer-circle care.

Line 2, favor: "May the LORD shine His face on you and be gracious to you." Or panim (light of the face, engagement, attention) and chen (grace), middle-circle care.

Line 3, peace: "May the LORD lift His face to you and grant you peace." Nesi'at panim (lifting the face, full presence) and shalom (peace, integration), inner-circle care.

The blessing moves from outer protection → middle favor → inner peace. The Hebrew structure is a deliberate crescendo.

Why Ephraim and Manasseh, in detail

The Genesis 48 scene: Jacob is dying in Egypt. Joseph brings his two sons, Manasseh (the elder) and Ephraim (the younger). Jacob crosses his hands (deliberately, despite Joseph's protest) and gives the younger Ephraim the right-hand blessing. He says: "By you Israel will bless, saying, May God make you like Ephraim and Manasseh."

The rabbis read this as a model for diaspora Jewish identity: Ephraim and Manasseh grew up in Egypt's most assimilated environment (Joseph was second-in-command to Pharaoh), they spoke Egyptian, they had Egyptian names, and yet Jacob saw enough Jewish identity in them to bless them as full inheritors. They are the proof that you can live in another culture and still raise Jewish children.

What parents add to the blessing

After the formal text, many parents whisper a private blessing, for the child's health, character, future. There is no fixed text for this; it is the moment when the parent says what's actually on their heart, eye-to-eye with the child, hands still resting on their head. Some children remember these private words for decades.

For very young children, the parent's voice is part of the early childhood soundscape of Jewish life. For teenagers, the blessing often becomes brief and slightly awkward, but they still come for it. For adult children who visit, the blessing returns, sometimes more emotional than ever.

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